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2007 Conference Report Prepared by James Kent and Hugo Salinas
“A More Perfect Union”  Photo GalleryFriday Events
Coming from 28 states, Canada, and Europe, nearly 200 celebrated their legacy as gay and lesbian Mormons at the national conference held this year in Washington, DC. The theme of the conference was “A More Perfect Union.” “You can take that to mean whatever union you can imagine in your life,” wrote Conference chair David Melson regarding the theme, “—be it our nation, our society, our church, our biological families, or the new families that we are forming in our lives. Each of us, simply by virtue of who we are, are the promise of a more perfect union unfolding before us each day.” Held in the Hyatt Regency Hotel in downtown Washington DC, the conference featured renowned writers, activists, and Affirmation supporters and friends. Speakers included V. Gene Robinson, first openly gay bishop of the Episcopal Church, writer Carol Lynn Pearson, executive director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Matt Foreman, PFLAG parents Lani and Robert Graves, and legally married spouses Michael Kessler and Buckley Jeppson. During the Friday opening session, Buck Jeppson welcomed the audience and shared informative and amusing information about the Washington DC area and its LDS history. Sergeant Brett Parson shared experiences as the commanding officer for the Gay and Lesbian Liaison Unit of the Washington DC Metropolitan Police Department. The DC Cowboys Dance Company treated us with a sizzling performance, and gay Mormon playwright and actor Steven Fales shared elements of his one-man play Mormon American Princess. Saturday Morning
Robinson shared with us some of his favorite scriptures, including the parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32). He told us that the story is not really the parable of the Prodigal Son but rather the parable of the Forgiving Father who receives the wandering child back into his arms. And it’s also the Parable of the Jealous Brother, who cannot understand or accept the love that the Father still feels towards the Prodigal Son. “You are not going to hell,” Bishop Robinson told the crowd. “Your are going back to the God that created you and has loved you from the moment you were conceived. God loves the fact that you are gay, loves your relationships.” “Your mission is for the whole world,” he added, “to witness to a God who has loved you and accepted you and helped you to be who you are.” The Saturday workshops included educators, authors, and activists. Among them, three gay Mormon students spoke about their experiences joining Soulforce’s Equality Ride and touring a number of colleges across the US that discriminate against GLBT students. Matt Kulisch, Emil Pohling, and Mike Cramer participated in the 2007 Ride which included a demonstration at Brigham Young University. Haven Herrin and Jarrett Lucas, leaders in Soulforce’s Young Adult Activism program, also joined the discussion and answered questions from the audience. Bridget Foster, the founder of the Safe Space Campaign, explored the feasibility and ramifications of staying in or leaving the LDS Church. Ruby and Chris, from the Whitman-Walker Clinic, spoke about LGBT health issues. Bill Russell, a professor at Graceland University, spoke about homosexuality in the Community of Christ (formerly known as the Reorganized Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints). In an interview with PFLAG mom Lani Graves, Carol Lynn Pearson spoke about her most recent book, No More Goodbyes: Circling the Wagons around Our Gay Loved Ones and took questions from the audience. Later the audience heard Lisa Polyak and Gita Deane, accidental activists who became the lead plaintiffs in Maryland's marriage equality lawsuit. The issue of marriage equality was also touched upon by Dan Furmansky, executive director of Equality Maryland. Jonathan Rauch, a senior writer and columnist for National Journal magazine in Washington and a correspondent for The Atlantic Monthly, discussed his latest book, Gay Marriage: Why It Is Good for Gays, Good for Straights, and Good for America. At lunchtime, some 54 gay Mormon fathers (Gamofites), their partners, and friends joined the 11th Annual Gamofite Luncheon held at the Dubliner Irish Pub on Capitol Street. The 44 Gamofites in the room could count among them seventy children and 54 grandchildren. The Michael Farr Award, which honors one person of outstanding leadership and service, was given this year to Lars Hansen of Salt Lake City. In the afternoon some attendees took a tour of the U.S. Capitol Building, while others visited the American Indian Museum. Another group stayed in the hotel and watched Anyone and Everyone, a new documentary featuring Lani and Robert Graves along with their gay son Robert Jr. Awards Banquet
“This year’s recipient is actually two halves that form a perfect whole,” said James Kent as he presented the award. “They are indeed a dynamic duo. They have attended every annual conference since the Portland Conference of 1998.” “[James] has been the longest continuing active member of their chapter. He is a gifted fine artist, as well as being a creative caterer. He makes those around him completely at ease with his warm smile and sense of humor. [Aaron] is a master of detail. He is very kind, generous, patient and caring to those in his chapter, and to those making inquiries regarding Affirmation. He keeps his chapter members connected to each other, as well as keeping the membership records of every member of Affirmation in the United States and worldwide. He is a champion of respecting the privacy and confidentiality of everyone he comes in contact with—providing Affirmation members a safe space to just be themselves.” “Some people are here just temporarily, and some people are here for the long term,” said James as he accepted the award along with his partner Aaron. “A long time ago, I thought I was going to come to Affirmation for a ‘quick fix,’ and find out how to expedite my excommunication, but I met someone who was wiser than myself—Ron Kershaw. He gave me a sense of empowerment that I had never experienced as a gay man. I determined then than I was going to be here for the long haul. Whatever it takes, I want to be here to help.”
Carol Lynn told the audience that after a recent performance of her play Facing East, she was asked her opinion about gay theology. Carol Lynn responded by quoting a passage of the New Testament that says, “God is love” (1 John 4:8,16). “Wherever in a heterosexual relationship you find love, there you find God,” Carol Lynn added. “If that love is real, and true, and selfless, there you find God. And similarly, in a homosexual relationship, where you find love that is real, true, honorable love, there you find God.” “That’s all I know about [gay] theology,” Carol Lynn added, “and that to me is all I really need to know, because I base my assessments of institutions and of relationships on that.” The Awards Banquet also included a speech by Matt Foreman, executive director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. As a child, Matt lived in Magna, Utah, and as the only white “gentile” in his class, he learned at an early age what it means to be a minority. “We need to say over and over again to ourselves and everyone we know that we [GLBT people] are, yes indeed, created in God’s own image and likeness,” said Matt, “—that we are, like our Founders said, endowed by our Creator with the same inalienable rights to life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness. This to me means, ‘Stop running away from morality and moral values, but instead seize them and go on the offensive with them on a daily basis.’” Will Gartshore, one of Washington DC’s preeminent musical theater performers, delighted the audience with a repertoire specially tailored for us. Will sang a few lines from the hymn “Come, Come Ye Saints”: “We'll find the place which God for us prepared,/ Far away in the West./ Where none shall come to hurt or make afraid;/ There the Saints will be blessed.” Then he identified the connection between those lyrics and the song “Somewhere,” from the musical West Side Story: “There's a place for us,/ Somewhere a place for us…/ We'll find a new way of living,/ We'll find a way of forgiving,/ Somewhere.” Sunday Devotional
Days after being featured in the Washington Blade, Andrew Evans spoke about the bonds that unite him to his partner Brian and the painful decision he was forced to make four years ago at the time of his excommunication. “The church is more concerned about appearances,” said Andrew. “In my ‘court of love’ they weren’t concerned about my sins, but about the fact that Brian and I were living openly as a couple and I would refer to him as my spouse.” “I was given a choice,” he added, “—either to leave him and all would be forgiven, or to be excommunicated. And I’m so grateful for what the Church has taught me—to choose the right. When they gave me that choice, I thought about the engagement ring that I had given Brian, which was the CTR ring I had worn during my mission. I made the right choice, and I was excommunicated.” “I have a testimony of our Savior’s love and the gospel—meaning our Savior’s love. Nobody can own that. The Church does not own the gospel. The gospel is only something we can share. And I’m grateful that this weekend I have been able to share with you. I’m grateful for the love that we have and extremely grateful for my partner. Brian, I love you and I’m so grateful for you.” Brunch, Trip to Mt. Vernon
During the Sunday brunch, Olin Thomas announced his candidacy for one more year as Affirmation’s executive director. Ricky Gilbert, chair of next year’s Affirmation Conference, announced that the event will be held in Los Angeles, California, October 10-12, 2008. Ricky explained that in wedding anniversaries, the 30th year is the anniversary of pearls, hence the theme of next year’s conference: “A Pearl of Great Price.” The first meeting of the Los Angeles chapter of Affirmation was held roughly thirty years ago in January 1978. Through the influence and leadership of the L.A. Chapter, a permanent national organization was soon established. Harry Knox, Director of the Human Right’s Campaign’s Religion and Faith Program, was the featured speaker during brunch. “We need to encourage LGBT people, and maybe more importantly our allies, our family members and friends and co-workers who are people of faith, to use faith language in advocacy, in talking about political issues in the language that people on Capitol Hill understand.” He added that we, as Mormons, know the religious language of the Latter-day Saints and need to use that language effectively when we speak to Mormon legislators and the Mormon community. In the afternoon, we climbed into chartered buses and rode 16 miles south to George Washington’s Estate in Mount Vernon. After watching an introductory movie, the group scattered in all directions as we strolled though the gardens, hiked the trails, visited the historic buildings, and toured the state-of-the-art museum. God be with you ‘til we meet again. Next year we will meet in Los Angeles to celebrate 30 years of Affirmation.
Olin Thomas, from the Washington DC Chapter of Affirmation, has been elected to serve as executive director for 2008. Olin has broad experience in the leadership of Affirmation, having served for many years in his local chapter, one year as associate director, and four years as executive director. In 2002 Olin received the Mortensen Award for outstanding service and leadership to Affirmation. “My time thus far as executive director has been both rewarding and trying,” Olin wrote for Affinity, “but my appreciation of and dedication to Affirmation remains strong. There are many unfinished projects to attend to and new work that needs to be begun. Most of all, I feel that Affirmation itself remains a vital organization and that I have the experience and commitment to ensure that its vital mission continues.” Olin announced that he intends 2008 to be his last term as executive director. “Not only is it vital to have continuity and experience,” says Olin, “but it is also important to cultivate new leaders with fresh energy and new ideas. One of my goals for this year will be to cultivate new leaders for Affirmation.”
The Group Will Meet on a Monthly Basis by Mark Cochran I am very pleased to report that on Sunday, November 11, the Dallas Affirmation Group met for the first time at the home of Rusty Lane. (For those of you who were in Affirmation back in the 1980's, Rusty was the Executive Director of Affirmation.) There were ten (10) of us in attendance, ranging in ages and situations — and it was a terrific time. Everyone seemed excited about the group and as you might expect, we had several winners in the ever-popular, "Mormon-Who- Do-You-Know Game." It is truly amazing at how connected we all are to each other. :) The group will meet on a monthly basis with the locations and details available upon request through our current email address. If any of you have LGBTI friends in the Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex who might be interested, please have them contact us at www.affirmation.org/contact/dallas. Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons P.O. Box 46022 Los Angeles, CA 90046 National Phone Line: (661) 367-2421 To see a directory of current Affirmation chapters, visit www.affirmation.org/chapters Executive Director: Olin Thomas Senior Assistant Director: Alyson Bolles Assistant Director: James Morris Associate Director & Affinity Editor: www.affirmation.org/contact/affinity Send Us Your Submission! AFFIRMATION GAY & LESBIAN MORMONS is a non-profit support group serving Gay and Lesbian Mormons, their families and friends since 1977. AFFINITY is the official publication of the Affirmation National Executive Committee. Submissions are welcome and should be limited to 250 words. To contact us, visit www.affirmation.org/contact/affinity. The opinions expressed herein do not necessarily reflect those of the editors, national committee or publisher, but rather the individual writers. The Editor reserves the right to edit any material deemed offensive, libelous, grammatically incorrect or lengthy. About AFFINITY and E-AFFINITY AFFINITY is available both as an email text and as a web-based document. Although both versions are free of charge, we encourage you to become a dues-paying member and thus help us advance Affirmation's important mission. If you wish to receive a text version of AFFINITY by email, simply (affirmationLDS  earthlink.net). If you are a dues-paying member and do not have Internet
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